All kids are capable of being unsavoury. And I think the best thing is to focus in ways to make things better for everyone. Not just one individual. I think when you lay blame or avoid blame even it causes problems. I don't think there is anything wrong with getting involved. Depending on how it is.

I have to say though I hate the idea though that this is normal behaviour. It isn't, or should I say it doesn't have to be. It's another opportunity as a parent to teach your child through example and discussions on how to deal with social situations as well as how to respect others and have a little self respect.

Not every girl goes through this. But it is a problem. I remember my DD's teacher telling me how there were pockets of girls that were problematic and had to be talked to about their behaviour nearly ever day. This was at the start of this year. My daughter is in grade 6. It starts young and it can go right through to high school. But I don't believe that just letting it slide or letting it sort itself out is the best way either. And I'm not suggesting getting involved with the kids yourself. That's just asking for trouble. But give your child the tools to be a bigger, better person and try not to play the blame game. And be empathetic to all children. It's never cut and and dry. Some just struggle with social interaction than others (and IMO the *****iness is a lack of social maturity too).