I'm doing my best. There are only 4 or 5 girls in this age group, so they don't really have others they can just go off & play with. If one is left out it is very noticeable.

But I am the same. DD doesn't want a lot to do with this kid anymore, because she's always causing trouble.

DD & the other child are 1st cousins. To us that relationship is important & these 2 have only ever had issues when the 3rd one tries to separate the other two. And we have witnessed it to know that even though our girls do have their moments, this one just causes so many of the drama's herself, then dobs & it all goes too far.

I have told the mother I refuse to get involved in 8 year old drama. But she won't let it go. Her dd told my dd she wanted her dead & that she'd laugh when it happened. That time I did tell her to speak to her. She went too far IMO.
My reply was '*** isn't innocent either you know'.

The meeting at the school was about getting the girls to deal with it, work it out & if it keeps going then approach a teacher. Now I've been told the other child feels like she has no one to talk too.

I want dd to have the choice & choose her friends. The other mother seems to think that it isn't acceptable.

The mother herself is an extremely depressive person. I have been continuous support for her over the past 2 years, but I can't do it any more. She's bringing me down & draining me.

It sounds horrible, but I lived 12 years in the same, or worse, relationship. My own mental health has suffered severely. I am trying to move on & get myself back to normal, but I can't do it while trying to be constant for her. When I'm feeling good, I don't want to be brought down by someone else's life constantly

*sigh* again...