This is all still going on. But on mine & SIL's end it seems better

I've learnt so much more about the other mother involved lately :/ she seems to like playing the victim. If the kids are having trouble & her dd comes to her with it, she listens & makes a big deal out of it... if she sees my dd come to me she'll shut her down, tell her they're all doing it & send her away. When we have the proof that her dd started it all, her answer is 'but so & so isn't innocent either'.

I've seen this child cause trouble & lie to her mother's face, then the mother overdramatises it all & blows it up further. She refuses to accept that sometimes her dd does this all on her own. There's always an excuse. There's always a reason for her child to act the way she did. And she will stand up for her child, yet God help anyone else who stands up for their own.

This child called ds names on a camping trip, flicked sand in his eyes then when he kicked her she pushed him over & went running to mum. Next thing I heard was the mother 'I'll punch him in the head'.
When I said something I got 'I'm not gonna stop that girl standing up for herself'... I'm sorry, but 1, that's NO excuse for you to threaten violence towards my child & 2, when does my boy get to stand up for himself? Kicking is not acceptable, but neither is the rest of what happened.

*sigh* just venting. Another episode tonight. The mother wants to spend all our spare time together again. I don't. There's enough going on without her feeling comfortable telling me details about her partners abuse :/ I can't do it anymore. I have my own **** to get over without taking hers on.