Oh hun

I know that when I told my mum that I hated her for whatever reason (probably because she told me not to do something ) she used to withdraw affection. She basically said 'well I love you, but if you really hate me then you dont like it when I cuddle you or give you treats or anything nice, so that is stopping now' It worked. I also used to have privelages taken away, like the TV (I never had a gaming console, maybe taking the DS away will work?) because that was a priveledge, not a right, and that is how it was explained to me.

He really does love you but doesn't know how to express that he doesn't like your decisions while still loving you.