I just want to say as well, its okay to send your child to care to have some time off. I'm going against what a lot of people feel and thats okay too. I didn't want my girls to go to care before they were 1 yrs old. FDC until they are 3, and I have a rule in our house that before they start school they have more days at home than in care. Just our house rule. I work weekends & nights and 1 day a week and its absolutely paramount for my mental protection that I get a few hours without the girls to organise the house & have something for me, a shower by myself, bath or a massage. Its nothing to be ashamed of, and its okay to say that for you or for me its a necessity.