We share a bed with DS for a number of reasons - a big one is that I get more sleep that way. We started putting him in his cot in our room for the first part of the night, but I found I was getting up to check on him 5 times or so during the night. I keep thinking of moving him out of our bed and into his cot, but the thought of not cuddling him all night makes me a bit sad, I love having him right next to me. To me, it feels like that's where he belongs - next to his mummy. Having said that, it does drive me a bit batty sometimes when he thrashes around all night.

DH also has said he likes having DS in bed with us, although he does not sleep as well. Our intimate life is pretty dreary at the moment, but I think that's got more to do with exhaustion than DS being in our bed. When we've both got the energy, we move elsewhere.

Liz - I like how you have managed the transition for your DS to his own bed and room. I would like to do it like that as DS gets older.

I also agree with what Jellyfish said:
I believe the opposite is true in terms of independence. I feel that by showing my daughter I am here for her whenever she needs, she gains confidence and this is echoed in many studies. My thinking is that being in their own room/bed might teach them they HAVE to be independent and personally, I'd rather teach them they CAN be because they are secure in the fact that if things go wrong, I am right there to help.