I'd love an answer too!

OK, the "experts" recommend that EVERY sleep is in the bed and you don't use the bedroom for anything else, so it becomes a sleep association.

Patting and "ssshing" are SUPPOSED to work then you just lessen the amount of your helping.

Sleepy toys and sleepy music - again, association-building.

It took me about 9 months before I could get DS to sleep without walking him up and down and up and down. He still needs patting to sleep. I have had the same sleep toys pretty much since birth (Tinephant and Coo since birth, Herr Hare is the main one and that was since 4w old). I was lucky though, DS will usually sleep OK in the pushchair or the car if he's tired. But as soon as DS realised it was sleep time he would scream and scream and scream until he fell asleep, even in my arms. He's better now for day sleeps! Loads of praise helps. He still screams every time I put him into his bed, even if he's asleep two minutes later (and he shuts up once the patting starts).