Well, *she nervously starts to type* we never nursed our kids off to sleep when they were babies. After their last feed between 6.30 - 7.30 pm we always put them into their bassinnette/cot/bed awake and let them self settle. Mind you we'd never let them cry for long before we went into them, but it just worked really well for us to do that and all 3 of our kids are really good sleepers. We did have the odd night when they wouldn't go to sleep, so we would nurse them then to settle them down to sleep. We could never do the bath before bed thing when they were babies because our house is too cold in winter, so that always happened during the day.

Bedtime is always 7.30pm no matter what and I think that has helped alot with the settling routine because they always know what time is bedtime IYKWIM? Naturally this cannot always happen if we are out etc.
Hope this hasn't confused you Meg.
So I suppose we are in between 'gentle parenting' and 'control crying'.