Meg,

As I think I have mentioned to you before, Olivia was a shocker to get to sleep from about 3 weeks old to 4 months old.

Our method to get her off in the evening was to feed her and then one of us would hold her close in the Baby Bjorn and just walk up and down the house, whilst patting her. It was as boring and as frustrating as, but this, or a long drive in the car was about all that worked. We didn't have dinner together for months! (But looking back, whilst we were all totally knackered, it was such a short space of time really).

(When she got to 4 months and we introduced bath at 6.30pm, final feed in a really dim peaceful room with Peacebaby on, from that point on she seemed to get the knack of just drifting off by herself with no crying whatsoever)

But until 4 months she would just scream the minute you put her to bed, but if she fell asleep vertically we could then transfer her easily & she would stay asleep. (Until she woke for a feed around 3am)


With Charlie, he has always self settled and we have been really lucky to pop him into bed and he drifts off by himself very happily without a cry. But on the odd occasion that he does cry, if I hold him and sing softly to him, he visibly relaxes and goes to sleep in my arms and I can transfer him no problem.

I think all you can do is take each night as it comes, support each other with love and humour and affection, don't get frustrated, and simply go with Coco's cues.

HTH