I just read your first post out to DH and he thinks your DH is probably just a bit scared. Guys usually never get to the point of actually being completely ready like we chicks usually do. For me and for you it was like OH MY GOODNESS I HAVE TO HAVE BABIES!!!!! Just undeniable urge but for guys they are scared. It can be a big thing for guys to carry on their shoulders even if you intend to work etc they still take it as their responsiblity to feed, clothe and house you and all of the children you have.

Phil earns a great wage and as we were considering ttc no#2 he said he still felt anxious about it because he would take it as a life that he alone has to support finacially...thats a pretty big weight to carry.

Even to show the craziness of male logic here's a story- DH is a twim, his mum only found out she was having twins at about 35weeks preg, when she told my FIL the first thing he said was how will we afford the high school uniforms?? WT??? What about all the immediate expenses and in between??

Guys are thinking long term supporting this life and then also another thought I had was maybe he doesn't have a good understanding (like most guys) about the fact that there are only a few days per month you can actually conceive he may be thinking well we haven't got preg yet and haven't been using protection for a while so maybe there is an issue with him and he doesn't want to let you down? iykwim I hope that comes out right not saying there is a fertility issue just saying maybe he thinks you can get preg any old day of the month and seeing as your not preg yet he's thinking there could be an issue.

I think the fact that you are using no protection says that your dh does want kids,,,,I'm sure he's no idiot if he wasn't ready he would be making sure there were precautions used. So I'm think he is just scared, as all guys are about the huge changes a baby will mean and will he be a good dad etc etc.

I think you need to tell him just how much this is effecting you. Before we started ttc Noah I was on the pill and I missed 2days by accident I stopped taking the pill in case I was preg even though not likely. Before we could find out we both got used to the idea (mainly Phil I was pretty much born ready to have kids lol) and decided we would ttc if I wasn't preg. When I found out I wasn't preg Phil freaked out and changed his mind I was absolutely devastated and cried alot, I tried not to in front of Phil because I didn't want to manipulate him and in the end he said we would ttc. He said that he wasn't sure on when but he knew he wanted to have kids with me and if I wanted them so badly he was happy to start. He later said he was very glad that happened.

Maybe ask DH if you can chart etc and ttc but just keep it cruisy on his side if it will all freak him out. Make sure it stays fun and you are still spontaneous and in the mood when you're not fertile and tactful let him know you're not fertile so he knows you still want him for him and not just to get preg.

I hope you can start officially ttc some and we are all in ttc threads to discuss cm and temps and charts etc when you dh doesn't want to hear about it.