Dragoncookie- I get where your coming from. The othere girls have valid opinions but here's mine. TTC is a combined effort. My DF was the same as your DH with my last pregnancy (my third m/c). Before i fell pg with lily he was the same, didn't want me to get test or seriously 'try' for a baby, he felt pressured etc etc.
Then i m/c again. I had billions of tests done and we think the cause of my m/c has been found.
But i can't TTC without fertility drugs. And i HAVE to monitor my cycle by temping and blood tests etc. My partner and i sat down and talked it over and over before i started these drugs and agreed this is what we were going to do- TOGETHER.
So i think you have a right to be angry and hurt- i think if you both agree to ttc and bear the disappointment month after month you need to support each other and be able to talk about it- it's one of the most emotional and frustrating journeys for alot of people in thier lifetimes.
HTH