if it you were posotive you O'd then id be sure its hubbys baby. as i fell pg on the day i O'd . only took one go ! and i just said to DH casually "lets have a baby" lol and we got one !!!!

first of all dont be too hard on your self , you are human and your not the first one to make a mistake of anysort , so relax . streesing wont make it any better , only worse . May i suggest meditation for an hour or so in a warm quiet place and relax soothe your self , invigorate your body and connect with baby , talk to it tell it everything - your thought and fears... and at the end be calm - do it for you.

In re your decision to tell or not to tell ... its up to you and the other man . it would complicate the hell out of things as you said , so i can fully understand if you didnt tell .

im hoping you get some answers that you want from the doctors today . please be totally honest with the doctors , the more honest you were the more likely they can help you with it all ..

are you in qld ?? there are unplanned preg support places that can help .

and lastly if you want to chat , you can email me as , i have had this expeirnce close to my heart (not me but someone very close ) and can tell you the out come and how and who it has affected and just be there to chat ... no judging