Emstar, just wanted to offer you some support. I cannot imagine how you feel having being ttc for 2 years, but you do have every right to get upset. Don't ever think that your feelings are not warranted! Some people really should think before they speak, and I have no doubt that I would have reacted in exactly the same way you did.
ah thanks Mel! This poor girl didn't really know we were actively trying though, well she knew we were in 07.... and i've never let on before about how desperate i am for a child. Plus I never ever get upset with anyone except my HD. so i may have overreacted, oh well!
yeah on and off for 2 years with nothing wrong... seeing a specialist next month
Em, it's so hard. We were TTC for 3.5 years (no known reason) so I know where you're coming from. People just don't think when they make comments like your friend, and often they have had no experience or have known anyone dealing with infertility. Don't feel bad for what you said to her and for getting upset. What you are going through is hard and there are going to be bad days. it might be an idea to go and seek some counselling if you think it will help you. I saw a counsellor and then I started seeing a naturopath. For some reason I didn't gel with the counsellor and felt more comfortable chatting with my NP. It's important to find someone you are comfortable with.
Good luck with your specialist. I hope this is your year.
Hey Megan, thank you for your message! you bought a tear to my eye!!! Yeah guess it is natural to have bad days and let it show sometimes! I am actually seeing a chinese herbalist at the moment so trying to get my body healthy first, now i need my mind healthy! might go see a councellor or something.
congrats to you - must be so so exciting after all that time! yay!
Im so sorry some people just dont think before they open their mouths!
I have a friend who said something along the same lines to me, it was so upsetting. And fustrating too, she basically falls pregnant if a guy stands next to her!!!
My advice is that she obviously isnt worth being friends with at the moment and just chat to us. Are you working? Have you made any friends at work? Maybe you could start up a hobbie, such as a dance or art class?
I am sure she didn't intentionally hurt you and I know that if I was her that retaliating the way you did, although it may have hurt, would have reminded me that sometimes things are out of our control. Sometimes we all say things without thinking.
Maybe flick her an email apologising for snapping, but explain that you were feeling pretty raw that day after finding out you had another unsuccessful month. I am sure that she will be understanding and maybe even apologise for not thinking before speaking.
Last edited by alioops; February 7th, 2009 at 01:01 PM.
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some people just dont think before they open their mouths!
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