I know these moments all too well! and don't feel bad for feeling the way you do its normal and we ALL have these moments.
Being pregnant i don't feel so bad because DP is always telling me how great i look and how gorgeous my bump is but i know i will feel disgusting when bubba is here..
And i agree with carrying your DD, just think the weight of her will do wonders for your arms lol and you can walk at a pace that does something for you. And even just chasing her outside in the backyard is better than nothing.
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