I just saw myself in the mirror.. REALLY saw myself..

[Jakabella]

And I HATED what I saw. I am ugly, fat and disgusting. I hate myself right now. I have so much weight to loose.. It all seems so hard and I really don't know where to start.

I really don't know how DH can even love me how I am...

How did I let it get this way??

I want another baby so badly but I think I should loose some weight first.. Breaks my heart to wait.

Sorry for the download..

Kate xox

[boobaloo]

honey, i can tell you that most of us have those days, where you can't find a single nice aspect of your body. but i bet if you ask your husband, he can tell you many - i'm sure he loves you and your body, and doesn't see your flaws.

maybe just start by walking every day, you may see a difference on the scales, and i guarantee you'll feel better for getting out and excercising. xoxo

[Mrs Jak]

Sounds like you are having one of 'those' days we all have xoxox

I don't know if you need to lose weight or not but like boobaloo says, maybe a walk now and then might help make you feel better and take your mind off things.

[Jakabella]

Thanks Ladies. I used to walk at least an hr a day with DD in her pram. But she doesnt like to sit in it anymore so we walk together but its a slow walk and not one that gets the heart pumping. Might have to get up earlier in the morning and walk while DD is still in bed.

[sushee]

will she sit in a sling? When I was losing, I put Charlie in a sling and went for a walk. He was 2 and a half and weighed 15 kgs easy.

The extra weight on me helped burn those calories, and I got more fit the more I did it, which in turn made me feel better about myself.

[Jakabella]

Sushee I have a carrabe back pack type thing that she sits in on my back., hmmm I'll give it a go tomorrow!!!

[maz]

I hear you hon I make myself violent sick when I catch a glimpse of myself and cause of it im joining a gym....to get some me time and to get ride of this half ton arse thats attatched itself to me.

[Laranna]

Kate you are beautiful!

As for the exercise, have you got a bike? Will your DD sit on a bike seat or bike trailer?

[mummato1]

I feel the same at the moment too



I am the biggest I have ever been my entire life, and despite hating it I just can not motivate myself to do anything about it. I have lost weight before, so I 'know' what I have to do... but it all seems to hard atm.

[PollyA]

I feel the same at the moment too



I am the biggest I have ever been my entire life, and despite hating it I just can not motivate myself to do anything about it. I have lost weight before, so I 'know' what I have to do... but it all seems to hard atm.

Me too,
After DD I spent a lot of time working on self acceptance and I got there but now I am struggling as none of my clothes fit. Just back from the shops where jeans which I would have been able to put both legs in one are too tight
What I have learnt from years of dieting is that self hate doesn't get you anywhere. You have to love you now, treat yourself as you would a friend struggling with these issues.

My plan, No more chocolate oin the house and some kind of exercise everyday. Its so much harder with 2 babies and working, but I am going to she some of this extra insulation before summer.

GOod luck

[fionas]

Exercise is great but I just want to come in and say something about portion control because that's how i've lost weight. I haven't been able to exercise for three years because of stupid, dodgy pelvis. The two forms of exercise that I enjoy - walking and breastroke swimming are both out for me. So if you're not a gym bunny or exercise always seems a chore then I'd recommend that you do portion control. I eat what I like just in small quantities. I don't worry about trying to cut out carbs or treats like cakes, I just have small amounts. AND it's worked long-term, the weight's stayed off (even while pregnant) and I know it's something I can do for the rest of my life.

[Jakabella]

Thanks ladies xox

Maz - we just don't have the $$ atm so the gym is out.. But I can walk more.

[Shanti]

Carry Bella on your hip ALL the time like I do with my 17mo DD at the moment (as she won't go in pram or ergo carrier at the moment!!) and you'll start losing the weight fast like I have!!!! It does wonders for your weight..... but yeah, they get heavy at 11kgs!! kills your arms!! LOL

[*LittleMissSummer*]

BIG BIG

I know these moments all too well! and don't feel bad for feeling the way you do its normal and we ALL have these moments.

Being pregnant i don't feel so bad because DP is always telling me how great i look and how gorgeous my bump is but i know i will feel disgusting when bubba is here..

And i agree with carrying your DD, just think the weight of her will do wonders for your arms lol and you can walk at a pace that does something for you. And even just chasing her outside in the backyard is better than nothing.

[Traveller]

Huge hugs first of all I have been in your situation and it is not nice when you get that feeling. I don't for a second think you are unattractive or that your husband thinks any such thing, but how we feel ourself is so important and if you feel that you need to get in shape then that is what you need to do.

I agree with previous posters with regards to walking. I walked for hours with my twins in a pram and it really worked to shift the weight, but if the pram will not suit your DD a sling is an excellent idea.

The other thing I did was work out in my own loungeroom when my children were napping. I watched aerobics TV DVD's and tried to do one every day. So that was an hour of walking and an hour of working out every day, which sounds like a lot but it is only 1/12 of your day to invest in yourself. You will be amazed how quickly you feel toned and healthy with regular exercise, and there is no need to join a gym to do it.

I hope you feel happier tomorrow, but if you don't harness this energy in a positive way and use it to work towards a fitter, healthier you.

[Mr Squidipa]

i hear ya dont beat yourself up if you want to lose weight you cvan do it and it is worth it you are not alone in this not at all

[ladybird11]

Awww hun, huge hugs!!!

Look at my signature....At my heaviest I felt just like you. I took the approach, no excuses, no messing around - I needed to exercise and eat much better if I wanted to lose the 30kgs (my goal).

I started with walking until I could start jogging, then running, then cycling, indoor exercise DVD's and signed up to triple w dot calorieking dot com dot au to monitor my calorie intake.

I stuck with it and attained my goal five months later. The following month I surpassed it!

Moral of the Story - if I can do it with a shift working DH, a baby and toddler, anyone can do it!

[Jakabella]

Thanks everyone!! Feeling a bit better today! Today is a new day and I will be walking and it's shopping day, so I have planned good healthy meals for the fn and buying much more fruit and veggies. One day at a time, but starting is the hard part!!