I'm fairly new here too (we only found out last Wednesday that my DH is infertile) and I know exactly how you are feeling. It's so overwhelming.. especially for DH.. and not something that you think will ever happen to you!! All of our friends and family fall pregnant at the drop of a hat... and we just thought that we would be the same.
My DH did his first sperm test about 3 weeks ago which came back NIL. Our doc sent us to the FS who did a brief examination of the testes (which were a normal size), sent him for some genetic blood tests (they look for a cystic fybrosis gene) and gave us our options. He said that he would do another sperm test in a few weeks time and still if nothing (which it was), he would do a procedure on DH which is called a PESA/TESA. This is where they sedate DH (in a day hospital) and use a needle to check in the tubes and the testis for sperm (which would mean that there was a blockage somewhere - if they did find sperm, he was going to freeze the best ones and we would then start the IVF process). Unfortunately for us, that test came back as NIL too.
At the moment, we are still trying to get our heads around the whole thing and are planning on seeing a counsellor this week some time. DH is taking this very hard, he feels like he has let me down. So I am doing what I can to reassure him that it is OK and that we will be OK. And as Allie said, what we are going through is like losing someone you love .. it's just we don't have an event or occasion to grieve over. It's kind of hard to explain to people..
Anyway, let us know how you go with the next lot of tests. It's great to be able to talk to people in a similar situation!!
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