Donor Conception General Chatter #4

[rather hazy]

Hi Ladies, it's been a while since I've made an appearance but we've had our appt with the FS last Wednesday (16th) and he is fantastic! He booked my husband in for testicular biopsy on the Friday (18th). It all happened so quick.

FS didn't expect to find any sperm and told us there was practically no sperm left, he only had 2 samples in his clinic. He also said that "as of 10 days ago it was illegal to bring sperm in from the US". Is this true? He said if we wanted a donor, we'd have to find our own. That was so daunting - I can't even begin to explain.

Anyway the biopsy went well & the FS found sperm. Very, very few, but he found some. The IVF clinic will attempt to freeze them and prep me for IVF.

That said, I want to say thank you to you all for your support. The information you all provided was invaluable and gave me an insight into an issue that I had never had to concern myself with previously. Now having been faced with all of this, I will be speaking to my FS about the possibility of me donating to help someone else who needs it.

You are all fantastic and I wish each of you every success.

Soooo, I guess I'm supposed to leave this thread now & join a more appropriate one...?

[blizz]

that's good news Rather Hazy, I'm glad things are looking up for you, good luck with the rest of your fertility process.
Don't leave us completely, I would really like to know how things are going for you, so pop in sometimes or at least tell us which chat you are leaving us for so we can check up on you from time to time. all the bestAllie xxxx

[blizz]

what a pain I'm off to chase paper work too!!!! my referal ran out yesterday so if I want to claim this cycle I need to get a new one dated with todays date so I'm about to go to the doctor (my doctor who would have just sent a referal without seeing me is on holidays poop!!!)Oh well here I go to wait for hours while the doctor sees a zillion patients before me, talk to you later on

[blizz]

wow, that was the most painless visit to the Dr ever, in and out in 5 mins must be a new record!!! and they bulk billed me.
All is on track for FET this cycle yaaaay, I went to book a scan with our local Gyno but he is on holidays(again) so I may have to travel to Launceston which is a 2 hour drive from here, need to see if I can get in to regional imaging at our local hospital first.
Will have a follicle tracking scan on Thursday and will then start urine testing and hopefully then on to Hobart for FET.
Have 4 embies left more fingers crossed otherwise I might be joining you in the jab brigade Gargy
Tarkine, wish your DH all the best for tomorrow hope it is good news and he isn't too tender, I'll be thinking of you

[Caramello]

Hey everyone!

Blizz,

Wow, 30 kids - that's amazing! As you said, that must be hard at times, but very rewarding too. The new business sounds exciting! I understand what you are saying in terms of having children and working. I really want to have the first year off to look after baby, two if we can management, particularly as we have waited so long to have children, but I'm not sure if we will be able to. I also think 'do I want a second child?' Here I am not even with the first and I'm thinking this long term!

Glad AF arrived and you're trying again. I always loath having to explain our situation to a new GP just to get a referral. Had to do this late last year. Thank goodness he just took my word for it.

Definitely crossed fingers for you!

Lissie,

Wow, your life in hospitality sound exciting! However working for a chiropractor would be really interesting too.

Just a medical question - are the tablets the same as injections, or something different again?

Crossed fingers for you too!

Hi RH,

That's shocking news about the US sperm ban. I wonder if it is all clinics? That's really going limit people in our situation.

Good luck in joining a new thread - maybe LTTTC? They are all really great in there. Actually, any thread is great, I just know the lovely women in that one. Again, please drop back in and let us know how you are going.

Baby dust for you as well!

Blood test for me again tomorrow. Hormones are kicking in - got rather tetchy with some kids and their Mum in a fast food queue - actually I think I was technically in the wrong but I didn't have the patience for them, particuarly as they were across two queues.

Also went to see The Kite Runner - a good film, if somewhat slow.

Got to go - take care!

[rather hazy]

Thanks Blizz & Gargy

We're going through Sydney IVF & the FS said that legislation had changed and that it was illegal to bring sperm in from US, apparently that was only a very recent change. He also said they were very short on sperm - they "only have 2 samples left in the clinic" that they can use as it's also illegal to use unidentified sperm now too.

I mean, I haven't investigated the change to the legislation, but he'd know more than me so I haven't questioned it.

After the FS told us that, I've been telling everyone I know that they should donate. Such a shortage would be devastating to those in need.

[Malyna]

Hi Ladies,

RH - Great news that they found something.. worst case is that your poor DH will have to undergo another SSC, while you are waiting in the next room.

I am a lady of leisure at the moment. I took 12mths off from my job in the public service to finish my degree, and I sure as heck hope that I've finished it ( I did the course work for one subject last semester so I could clear the path for honours this semester) but after much soul searching I changed my mind. So I return to work in February. Mind you I haven't had abreak like this for probably at least 10 years - probably more, where I just did what I wanted when I wanted without uni hanging over my head.

Still not heard back from the SSC.. DH is in hospital tonight taking Endone (spelling?) to control the pain, but he seems fine. The specimen went back to the Fertility Centre for culturing - so I guess they didn't find anything obvious.. So it looks like we will be going down the DS route and I hope that we don't have to worry too much about waiting for a donor.. I ain't getting any younger!

Gotta go and have a nosey at the neighbour's place.. it is up for auction and I want to see what it goes for.

My apologies.. I'm hopeless at personals, but I think you are all fantastic people!

[blizz]

Tarkine, Glad to hear that your DH is doing well, Hope the news you get is better than what your expecting, but otherwise I hope things progress quickly for you and you get your precious bundle,Allie xxxxxxx

[Malyna]

Thanks Blizz, so do we.

I really admire people who work in childcare and are teachers. They are the professions that get paid crap wages, yet have such an important role in society.

btw The neighbours house got passed in.

[blizz]

my MIL's house is up for auction on the 9th of next month, it is really hard to know what it will sell for as not only are we biased and love the house to bits but it is also one of the character homes of our area, it has been a long road to this point it is hard to believe that it is almost 12mths since she passed away.
It will be nice to get to the end of the process but really sad to see the house go, but it is not the same since she has gone, the warm family feeling has left as we have taken out her things out of the house.
We are going to use any money from the sale of her house to make some extentions to our home as we have inherited some furniture pieces that just wont fit in our house at the moment (lot of antique furniture also including an upright piano, guess Paige will be learning to play the piano LOL)

I have enjoyed childcare have just reached the expiry date on it i think and I want to spend every moment I can with Paige, When your baby arrives (I' am sure it will come soon for you honey!!) hold tight to him/her because you blink your eyes and they are walking and talking. I never believed it before, other children I have known seemed to be children forever in my eyes, but from this side of things it is flying past way to quickly already, I just want to keep her as she is!!!!! but she grows so much more every single day.
I don't want to miss anything or have any regrets it has been such a rollercoaster ride to get her as you girls already know so well, I feel that this is the year for you Tarkine and Gargy, I'm going to send a heap of baby dust in your directions so make sure you both breathe deep!!!!!!

[Malyna]

blizz, I remember my mum saying that when my SIL decided to go back to work when her first was just 6 weeks old, she felt sad for SIL as she was missing out on so many firsts.

DH called me about 20 minutes ago to say that he called the Fertility Clinic and there was no sperm. devastated just doesn't seem to cut it and poor DH is in a hospital room trying to cope with all this and I'm stuck here waiting for midday when the tiler finishes for the day and hopefully completes the tiling for the bathroom.

I guess we are eternal optimists and we hoped against hope that they would find something. We have been knocked for six but will get back on our feet again and keep going.

DH has pushed the clinic to bring forward the date for the interview with the counselor re donor sperm to next tuesday.

I admire DH because when he wants to he puts the pedal to the metal with the medical community, but I guess that is what you get for being around it for 34 years!

[blizz]

Oh honey I'm sorry you've hit yet another hurdle, it just doesn't seem fair!!!

[blizz]

Tarkine you and your DH please look after yourselves,
I remember having the same feeling of hope against hope, we were lucky in a sense because our hopes were dashed fairly early in the process as DH original sample was 0 and then we discovered that things weren't as they should be so we didn't get as far as the invasive testing stage, (I was the one who got all the poking and prodding).
It is still a shock and a real kick in the tummy to know that there is nothing there and I feel for you sending you both a huge hug,:hugs:

[Malyna]

Hi Blizz, its interesting as far as i was concerned I just wanted to do whatever DH wanted to do. I wasn't defaulting the decision making to him, I just know how much of a blow it was to him..All the way through this he has felt that his body has let him down (again and again during his life) and this was just the icing on the cake.

DH is home and we have both decided that we will get through this and we are just going to keep pushing forward. The option is we spend the rest of our lives looking back and thinking "if only we had done this" - and this is not an option!!

Thankyou for the support. It is greatly appreciated.

DH's family have been amazingly supportive to us. I SMS'ed his family saying the news wasn't great and within 10 minutes they were all on the phone to him, giving him loads of love and support (which is what he needed). So I guess we are going with the full disclosure to the entire family - at least that way everyone will know from the outset and there won't be any family secrets. i don't really have a family, so there isn't anyone on my side of the fence to worry about.

[Caramello]

:hugs: Tarkine. I hope things work out.

[blizz]

Tarkine, I have no doubt you guys will make it with such a positive attitude, it is all that has kept us going till now, you just have to keep pushing forwards and I can reassure you that neither of us regret our decision to use DS it was just what we had to do and it makes DD even more appreciated than a baby we would have conceived naturally,We are a much stronger couple as a result of this journey as nobody else in our lives can truely appreciate what we've been through (with a major exception of you amazing couples) we have decided just to keep heading through life and deal with the things that pop up as best we can.

[Caramello]

Sorry haven't been more in depth with my answers - it was TRANSFER DAY today!!! (Read blog for more details). Wish me luck!!

[MsPink]

Oh Gargy...I have everything crossed for you sweet...
I know the next 2 weeks will be stressful...but keep only positive thoughts in your mind.
Good luck!!!!!!!!