The parent should not only love the child unconditionally, but do THEIR best to keep them safe. It also means NOT abusing their children. There may be a history but you KNOW how bad you feel when you were abused, why do it to your own child?
My mother may well love me, but she has pointed out several times when she didn't lift a finger to keep me safe and protected (mentally and emotionally) and she emotionally abused me. I'd say that was "fair-to-bad" parenting, taking into account her history.
Of course I can forgive her that. It doesn't mean I have to like what happened or think she's a good parent though.
Last edited by Ca Plane Pour Moi; March 19th, 2010 at 10:08 PM.
: oooops- conditionally changed to unconditionally!
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