Mel. I can soooo relate to a lot of your post.

I had gotten to the point where I was avoiding social situations so I could avoid the rejection

Now I have reached the point where i think I have to actively DO something to fix it you know? Like i know what the problem IS, but what then?

Ok, so one thing I was told ages ago by some friends who did a lot of work in that area was to do mirror work. So every morning, you get up & look in the mirror & tell yourself that you love yourself, tell yourself something nice about yourself.

It might not sound like much but the fact was that I couldn't do it. I actually had trouble even looking in the mirror, not just checking my hair or whatever but LOOKING at ME.

Finding the negative dialogue that goes on in your head & re-programming it is another one to try. Even just identifying it & questioning where does it come from...

ATM, for me, I am actively challenging myself - so for example, I am making an effort to face my fear of rejection, see people etc.

I'm going to get going on the other two shortly. I am procrastinating on the mirror stuff cause I find it really hard

I DO think you are fantastic