Interesting... I had a stepmother who said the same thing about me! She specificially said I lacked "discipline". She grew up in a strict boarding school and I think she thought I had it too easy in life.

But I agree... I know I'm not lazy... but I am at the moment. Before I had my boys I was studying at uni, working and running a house... and yes! I could go all day! But I was engaged in life. I loved my course (fine art) and I liked my work... and the house was one we had bought.

Sadly I don't think my solution ATM is to go back to work. For one I don't think i could afford to unless i did night work and avoid child care fees. Secondly having worked in childcare I'm too fussy and don't want to put my children in one of I can avoid it.

My teenage DD is also lazy as you have described with your DS. But I feel confident that she will be able to engage into something soon and then be a hard worker like DH and I have been. She is very engaged in Little Athletics, for example, and that isn't something a lazy kid would do.

I don't know... do I wait for something to engage me... or do I rock the boat and seek engagement even if it's not in line with what DH wants? Everyone else is happy in our family... if I change anything then I know I would have to deal with the fallout... ugh... guess everything will just have to stay as it is.

ETA: thanks Amber... just missed your post... thanks for sharing