Also I know part of it for me is the repetiveness of it all! Everyday unload the dishwasher, hang out the washing, tidy etc. It is boring, and the results barely last.
Absolutely this was the problem for me. I got nothing out of it personally, nor was there any sense of acheivement where I could look at what I had done - becasue it never lasted!

I don't know... do I wait for something to engage me... or do I rock the boat and seek engagement even if it's not in line with what DH wants? Everyone else is happy in our family... if I change anything then I know I would have to deal with the fallout... ugh... guess everything will just have to stay as it is.
That's really rough... how often do women sacrifice what will make them happy & engaged in life for the sake of their family? I know I would probably do the same... but it's sad, isn't it?
Is there something else you can do that won't rock the boat?