I think personally if someone is AWARE of their behaviour, and have the ability to expend energy on finding ways to be passive aggressive then that is an evil to me. It's dishonest, and I hate dishonesty. And I hate it when people are not only lying to me through passive aggression but also themselves. Like lulu I've rid my life of it. And it's a definite deal breaker in any relationship with me.

I think there seems to be a lot of personal interpretations as to what passive aggression is. Passive Aggression is often from what I've seen as very victim based. The kiss slap method in conversation can be seen as passive aggression if it's done with malicious intent but to be seen as lovely. This is the type of deceitful behaviour I cannot stand. Presenting yourself one way when you actually have anger or hate underneath is Passive Aggressive, and when you throw emotional blackmail and manipulation into the mix it's just nasty.

I'm slowly learning how to deal with it and that makes me very very happy Because it sure makes my life easier.