Christy, you're right. It's all about THEM, everything. So if you did something, your Mum thinks it was directed at her, nothing to do with what might or might not have worked for you and your family. And I'm guessing she's only getting worse as things progress...

When I think about it, the people I know who use PA are very ego-centric. Very fragile in their self-esteem, but it's that need to be at the centre. They take everything personally, hence the ability to hang onto things. No empathy exercised, not even to those they 'love'.