Hi cooper,

Sorry to hear you are having troubles. I know that a relationship is more than just the sexual side of things but it is hard when things just aren't happening the way you would like them to.

As the other girls have said, try to find a Gynae whom you feel comfortable with and who gives you the understanding and info you need. It might take a few tries, but it's worth persisting until you find the right one for you.

From a purely "mechanical" point of view (sorry if TMI) there might little things you can do to ease things - make sure your bowels move well and if possible are empty before sex (full bowels can press forward, decreasing the dimensions of your vagina), try positions that don't place so much pressure on your vagina/uterus, also maybe see if different times of the month are less painful (our pain sensation is generally heightened just before and after our period).

Your husband seems really supportive, so keep communicating and keep trusting. I'm sure he wants you to be happy as much (probably moreso!) than he wants "normal sex". Make sure you tell him how you're feeling and stay in touch with where you're at.

xox