Do you sometimes feel like a single parent, even though you're not?
do.. DP works 40 hours a week. Hes gone at 7:30am and i dont see him till about 5:30-6pm and Mia's days are 7:30 - 6:30pm. So he gets to see her for a whole half an hour a day. The weekends are the same.. he will see her mayb 2-3 hours a day. Somedays i feel like im doing it all on my own, n it really gets me down. Anyone else feel like this?
I feel the same way hun dp works 7 - 5 has footy tue,thur i have netball wed and we hardly see each other sometimes its ok but i do feel alone sometimes.
Yeah sometimes, and it can be really draining at times. DH works a nightshift, so on those days he is awake for a sum total of 1hr - 1/2hr when he gets home and 1/2hr when he wakes up before work. The rest of the time he is either in bed or at work and doesn't see the oldest two at all for those 4 days as he is either not home yet, or left again by the time they get home from school. It's hard, especially if things are really hectic, or you have sick kids, or you are sick but I make sure I get time to myself to refresh if I feel I'm getting to the point where I am nearly at the end of my tether and about the snap. Day shift is pretty much the same, but he does get to see more of the kids on those days.
Yup another shift worler here! And I thought I was all alone
DH runs our bakery so is in bed at 6 and leaves at midnight, gets home at about 10 am then back to bed, up at 1:30pm back to work then home at 4:30 dinner and back to bed! So Iget to see him for maybe an hour all up! And this is 6 days a week! so I really only get saturday night if I am lucky and sunday till 6
Its so lonely and I am so worried when nudge comes cause I dont know how I will cope with no help
My DP is gone @ 6am & is home anywhere between 7-11pm, sometimes later, for 6 days a week, sometimes 7..
Some nights the kids don't even get to see him at all!
Yep, sometimes. DH leaves at 6am and doesn't get home till 6pm. Thankfully we have him home most weekends (he works one in eight) and he spends a lot of time with the kids then.
I felt like this for the first year of DD's life, but not due to work though. DH had depression so mentally and emotionally he just wasn't there even though he was there physically. He wasn't capable of looking after himself let alone DD.
Yeah definately! DH works long hours, throw in a long commute and hockey 2 nights per week and he gets to see DD if he's lucky for half an hour in the morning - she's always in bed by the time he comes home. He then plays hockey every weekend and once a fortnight will umpire 1-2games too! Things came to a head a while back, and now, on the weekend when he is at home, I pretty much leave DD to him and sit back and relax or get out the house on my own. Its better than it was, but its still hard. We're TTC #2 and I'm worried about how I'll cope being pg and having dd to deal with, let alone what will happen once #2 is born.
Yes I do sometimes. DP starts work either 3 or 4am, gets home around 1pm, has lunch, reads paper, goes on the computer, is then really tired but may spend a bit of time with DS (not really knowing what to do) and then is in bed around 7pm (another baker here!) On his days off, he often goes out with friends for drinks during the night and is pretty useless the next day
I sleep with DS in another room, am solely bfing, give him baths (DP has never given him a bath), organise all his appointments (he has some medical issues), etc etc. He never knows what to do with DS. Even when changing a nappy and he will call me to help Hehe I love him but gee he's so clueless! I know he'd love to spend more time with us though.
Even though I am with DS so much more than DP is, DP still gets all the smiles and I get the cranky baby!
Yeah, it isn't unusual for DH to race out the door at 8 and not get home until past midnight then sleep 4 hours and do it all again. Throw into that the odd trip away and I spend a lot of time single parenting.
Poor DH gets the worst end of the deal - he works so hard and sees heaps less of the boys than he would like. He's really looking forward to taking half a year out next year to enjoy some time with the boys (and so am I)
hell yes i sympathise! not so much due to work, although that takes up a hell of a lot of time, but dh doesn't really know what to do when the kids are sick, or if i'm sick i'm still doing everything anyway. he's a great dad, and most weekends will take the kids out for the day, but then i have to do the housework.
dd is teething at the moment, and dh has no idea how to deal with her through the night, so i'm up all night with a miserable baby, who's still miserable the next day cause she hasn't slept. lots of fun.
Especially the first 5months of my DD's life as DP worked in the city (we live in the country) ... he would leave about 6am to catch the V/Line to work & then arrive home at 8.45pm
I had no family & no friends in the town we lived ... my DD had severe colic so therefore no one wanted to ring with her screaming in the background ... They were very lonely days ... and YES i in those days did feel like a kind of single Mum & therefore had more compassion towards single Mum's in the work they do on a day to day basis ... Just amazing i say
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Do you sometimes feel like a single parent, even though you're not?
Hehe I love him but gee he's so clueless! I know he'd love to spend more time with us though.
... and YES i in those days did feel like a kind of single Mum & therefore had more compassion towards single Mum's in the work they do on a day to day basis ... Just amazing i say
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