I entered counselling when I was 26 & my reason was to make sure my daughter does not grow up with a mum like mine.
Do you feel that this helped? I've often seriously considered the same thing for the same reasons.

For those who don't speak to their mums/dads do you ever worry history may repeat and your own children won't speak to you?
All the time. I would hate for that to happen to me and my kids. That's why I've made a very conscious effort to educate myself on parenting and to teach myself to be exactly opposite from my own mum. I can only hope and pray that my effort pays off in 20 odd years.

You know, people always say that when you have kids you appreciate your mum more. It was the exact opposite for me. I felt warmer towards my mum before I fell pregnant. My first pregnancy was very difficult for me because I suddenly realised all the things my mum did when I was growing up weren't normal and I really struggled to comprehend how a mother could treat her child like that. I don't know if it was because I was the oldest, because I was a girl, because I was different to her as a kid or simply because I was me, but my siblings have both acknowledged that the way she treated me was completely whacked and different to the way she treated them. It's something I have seriously considered speaking to a pro about but I'm scared that down the track they will make me talk to her about it and I'm not ready for that.
Yes, I feel getting help for myself was a great benefit for my daughter because I discovered that the way I was treated was not normal & I had to accept that for whatever reason my mum doesn't like me & competes with me. I have never spoken to her about it because I'm scared of what she'll say to justify her behaviour. My DD knows no matter what that I love her, even if I'm angry or upset.

The best thing my mum did was teach me how to not treat my children.