Anna, big hugs to you hun. I went through my pg with Tom with no family nearby and it was REALLY hard. So I know what you mean and why you are at breaking point. And let me tell you, it IS going to get worse for a while when the baby arrives. Living apart from your DH temporarily is a big thing, and I know you wouldn't even be thinking about it unless you were desperate. Clearly something needs to change for you, and this move sounds like it is going to be your best option. Obviously it's not ideal, but maybe the best of a bad bunch of choices. If it's what you feel you need to do, do it. It's so important you look after yourself now and get whatever help you can.

Obviously your DH is not going to like your decision, but if you explain it to him, tell him you are going to have a nervous or physical breakdown if you don't, then I am sure he will reluctantly accept it. While you are so stressed and exhausted, it's not going to do your relationship a lot of good to keep the pressure on when there is an option. And as I have said, the pressure will get worse for a while when the baby arrives. Two close together is REALLY hard work for the first few weeks - remember the new born crying all the time and the lack of sleep and sheer exhaustion? Try that with a toddler! You need a break hun, please be kind to yourself. Be really honest with your DH about your feelings and how you are (or aren't coping). I am sure he will be understanding. And it just might be the best thing for your relationship. I know ours was strained when Tom arrived and we are still getting back on track.

I wish you all the very best Anna. Please take care of yourself and do what you need to do. It will all work out!