You know, as much as i would freak out if my MIL was buy stuff like a cot and a change table (a porta cot or a spare bed would do, ffs).
I'm actually a little upset and hurt with mine.
My Dp has a little girl (paige, 3 1/2) and his parents have a whole room set up for her, with toys, clothes (honestly enough for three little girls) and they keep constantly changing it for her even though they only see her for an afternoon or something once a month if their lucky. And yet, they haven't seemed to make any effort to get some stuff for bub.
A porta cot, or maybe a spare pack of nappies or some spare clothes would be fine. But there's nothing.
I'm feeling kind of left out on bubs behalf. Lol.
Like even with Paige's bike that she's had there for a year now and is yet to use. MIL was saying that when bubs old enough to ride it, he can just ride that one...It's hot pink with ribbons and butterfly stickers all over it. Why would a little boy want to ride that???
"and if he doesn't like the color, i'm pretty sure we have some left over blue paint from when we painted the bathroom, so we could just paint it"
It's not even like their trying to save money, their loaded!
I dunno. I just feel like Bub's being left out already.
Sophie, my MiL has that with Niece. Niece has her own high chair and bib and plate... if Liebs is there with us for a meal then MiL doesn't know what to do... he could use Niece's things she supposes... yeah, he can. We didn't bring a high chair because you have one. I don't care that you got it for Niece, you have one. We have been for lunch once. Because I didn't bring a high chair with me.
Mum has stuff for DS that I know other children have used - heck, some of it used to be mine! She has a box of toys she gets out for ALL children who visit. Yes, more has been bought since I had DS but nevertheless, it's Mum's stuff for children. My cousin's children can use the high chair when they visit. She can lend the pushchair to another grandma down the road. (She only has this much stuff because she lives so far away: we move in for a week when we visit. Otherwise she'd have spare clothes and not a pushchair IYSWIM.)
I did stop Mum from getting a stairgate though. DS is safe on stairs because he is wary of them. The time we tried a stairgate (on holiday; we don't have stairs inside) DS stood at the top of the stairs (stairgate top and bottom of stairs) and shook the gate screaming at it until the gate dislodged. We figure it's safer that he goes down himself now as he's great at stairs. But otherwise, Mum would have bought fifty thousand safety devices.
It is useful for grandparents to have some things - toys, nappies and wipes, if you visit a lot then why not a cot and spare clothes? But if you're not visiting so often then it's not needed. Once a month, it's great to have toys and wipes. But the nappies won't be used by the time they're grown out of.
Mmmmm.
What was my point?
Oh yes.
If you see the grandparent a lot and get on with them then why not have a nursery there JIC you need it? I never thought I'd get so ill I'd be rushed to hospital and told I couldn't care for my child for the next 24 hours; Mum living nearby with a nursery to hand would be great (or PiL taking DS for longer than the 3hr hospital stay). BUT all grandchildren should be able to use those things! And if you don't see the grandparent that often, it isn't needed. And for someone to set up a nursery when you don't see them that often and they could have helped you do yours first... it would ring alarm bells for me too.
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