if my ex approached me with such a timetable i would be ropeable - simply because in our situation (not just being biased) DD is better off with us. She doesnt WANT to sleep at his house.

So your circumstances are so very, very different to mine.

How close do you all live to each other, would shared care (ie one week with her, one week with you guys) work regarding school etc?

I work with a lady who has been doing this with her son for over 10 years and they have managed to make it work wonderfully.

i just hope you can find a happy medium, nd that the little man is happy with the situation!!