It is to much to ask ? Re: Child Access

[XRMummy]

Ok bit of back ground Info
Dp and i have been together for 3 years in sept.. He has a almost 4 yr old son to his Ex Wife when they seperated he has been nothing but evil as she blames DP for the marriage break up (she had 2 affairs so we think she is in denial) and we have been to court to get court orders to see DSS as she refused to allow DP to see him till she got 70% of everything anyway we went to court but only got a small amount of time with DSS that we asked for so atm we have DSS for 2 hrs every 2nd Thursday 530 to 730
Every 2nd w/e 10 am sat to 6pm sunday Fathers day 9am to 7pm DP B/day 9 to 7pm
Xmas and Easter 24 hours DSS B/day 2 hours 5pm to 7pm and that is it

Everytime we ask Ex Wife for extra time she refuses even if its for an hour to have family photos done... Her excuse is that its her TIME WITH him (if we could get photos done in our time we would but they never seem to be at the shopping centres on our weekends )
She has also said to a number of people that she wants DP to have nothing to do with DSS and wishes that he would stop asking for more time with him Oh and she said that becoz we got a court order stopping her from leaving the district that she will make it harder for DP to see more of DSS....

Now that DSS is that lil bit older he has been asking us to have more sleep overs and gets very upset when we have to take him back to his mum as he just gets settled in and then its time to go back So we went to mediaition to seek a parenting plan but Ex Wife refused everythignn she agreed on 2 days after we had finished mediaition coz she didnt feel comfortable and says that DSS is having serperation issues with her and she is worried bout him...( she has been using this excuse for nearly 2 yrs now) but he has never shown this seperation issues when we are around him EG he is very happy to say goodbye to mum and runs to dad's car but gets very very upset when its time for us to return him......
so we have now been to see our solicitior and have put forward these times
Every 2nd w/e Friday 330pm to either sunday 7pm or monday 9am
following thursday 330pm to 9am friday
following Tuesday 330pm to 9am Wednesday
Every 2nd Public hol 9am to 7pm
One week of all mid year hol friday 330 to friday 330pm
2 weeks during xmas hols with Ex wife to have the middle weekend friday 330 pm to sunday 7pm
DP birthday 9am to 7pm
DD and DS birthday 330pm to 830pm
DSS b/day non school days odd yr 9am to 230pm
even yr 230pm to 7pm
School days Odd yr 6pm to 830pm
even yr 330pm to 6pm
and xmas and easter to stay the same 24 hours each
Also Ex wife needs t inform on us on all visits to the doc, spec etc and for us to have 50/50 on the schooling and medicial decisions

What do other people think? if this was ur Ex partner asking for these times wouldyou think it was to much????
We know that what we are gettin now is NOT enough We just want DSS to be a big part of our family as my DD and our DS just love DSS to bits and visa versa

Ex wife has a new man and a new baby

She also refuses to tell us bout ANYTHING.. DSS started 3 yr old kinder thsi yr and we werent informed till we were talking to Ex wife sister and she told us, so we asked ex wife and she sadi yes he was at kinder but she didnt have to tell us anything bout it as it didnt happen in OUR TIME WITH DSS. she also refuses to tell us his doctor and refuses to tell us about anything to do with medicial things.. we heard he was to see a doc in Adelaide about asthma and so we asked Ex wife bout it and she just said i will let you know if i feel you need to know
ARGH its so frastrating
anyway i just wanted to get other peoples opinons on it