i should add that i voted before reading kelly's post. i actually have never smacked dd, she's not naughty, only six months old. but i voted on what i would do, which was, hand tapping. my mother used to smack me and my brother and use a belt. dad only hit us once or twice ever. just knowing he was mad was scary enough without needing a smack. mum used to yell all the time and smack first, go to your room later. i vow to never do that. but there are times where there is no solution. i see in my head myself hitting or throwing dd when she won't stop screaming but it scares the hell outta me that i even think that. i put her down somewhere and go and calm down. i never want to hurt her. i feel the naughty corner is ridiculous but time-outs are great. when i babysat when younger, i used time out a lot. even with parent's permission to give a smack when child is REALLY misbehaving, i never did. once a tap on the hand as i told them not to touch the large knife i was using to make their dinner. i said don't touch and they did, just to defy me. so i tapped them on the hands. but i never smacked them, as i do not want to lose their trust. i didn't want them to not like me and hate me babysitting. but i do know there needs to be a line between parenting and friendship with your children. i don't like people smacking their children, but sometimes the shock makes it work. but there are other ways to discipline. most of us were hit by our parents and so most of us refuse to hit our children.
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