As a logical person I find it hard to reconcile smacking with teaching a child that violence is not the answer. Especially if it is violent behaviour (smacking, biting etc) that you are trying to stop. However, DH had the view that it did him no harm (matter of opinion that one really ) so we trialled it for a bit when Jack had turned two and started the behaviours that go along with that. I felt it important to validate DH's parenting views as I am the primary caregiver and often do things "my way". But I am very pleased to report that we both came to the conclusion that smacking was the least effective method of discipline that we had tried. So DH suggested we stop (hooray!!) and we did. Jack's behaviour improved once we stopped smacking. Instead now, we spend lots of time talking and explaining things to Jack, we use the naughty spot, and if he refuses to stay then we stay with him and count down the time out aloud. We also take toys away, and once when he threw his plate, sandwich and all on the floor, we put him to bed early (and he's never done that since!!). These methods take more time, but it's worth it. They are more effective and make for a happier child (IMO!!).