I am hearing from these post a real "us & them" attitude. I feel sad to read that.

I feel sad to be reading such an attitude. Such a division made only on the grounds of choices.

You are right KL nobody can make you feel guilty... You choose in every moment how you will feel & react. That is responsibility.

I have never once read on this site that a mother that formula feeds is a "bad" (sic) mother.
I have read a lot about how people feel "bad" (sic) when they read of others touting the miracle of breastfeeding...

What do you all see as a solution to this?

This is a gentle parenting site. It is a site that parents come to to learn more about getting back to basics with regard to conception, pregnancy, birth & parenting.

As such we will always discuss the superiority of breastmilk. We will always discuss the superiority of informed decisions...

Opening threads to have a go at a person in another thread is hurtful - the very thing that was touted as the reason for this thread!

We are never here on BB going to tell anyone that FF is better than breast feeding. That's not going to happen. You will always be given options rather than FF. But at the end of the day if your baby is going to starve - well of course you FF.

The sadness and grief some women feel about the decision to FF needs to be owned and not projected as anger onto those who have tried to support breast feeding.

It needs to be remembered that breastfeeding mothers are in the minority in our country. We as a site want to see that change...

Of course not to the detriment of babies and mothers. However, to silence those that advocate breastfeeding for fear of stepping on toes of ff mothers. Well that too is to the detriment of mothers and babies.

It is like trying to argue that a hot dog is as healthy as a burgen bread salad sandwhich.

I wish everyone peace with their decisions - rather than making this an us and them argument...
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