I have been doing all the right things...exercising hard most days, eating reasonably (and much less than I had had in the past) and drinking lot so of water - and I have put on 3 kgs Plus I saw photos of myself at DH's 40th.....nearly cried.
I have been allowing myself one cheat day and one afternoon a week. I didn't think I had been going too overboard even on those days but obviously I need a full pattern change