Maya- we use natural fertility management for contraception (and conception) too but at the moment I don't 100% trust it because of bfing and frequent night wakings making it difficult for temp readings. We use other methods for now. I've also read extensively about child devt through my studies, work and personal interest and agree that for us, we'd like a minimum 2.5 year gap. We decided that even if we felt clucky, we'd still wait so we'd give DS a good 'babyhood' and to give my body time to recover from pregnancy and bfing. I can also see though how people decide to have smaller gaps to get the hard stuff out the way quicker.

I guess I thought that I may have feelings for another bub by now but at the same time I think if I had another bub now I'd feel I was robbing DS of his time with me (and vice versa). Thanks everyone for your stories. It helps to know that how I feel at the moment is 'normal' and that my feelings might change. And if they don't, that's ok too.