No eye contact? I don't know how not to look at someone when I feel love and affection towards them. I wonder who decided that eye contact was stimulating, because I personally find eye contact with someone to be calming, being indicative that they're being attentive and responsive, and were focussed on my needs, and I would instinctively behave the same way towards my child.
Newborns dont always focus on you, but as they grow, they eventually do connect through their eyes to your eyes, and I don't want to miss a minute of that. I can understand how it might work though, because theoretically, if you don't respond to a baby through eye contact, then the baby learns not to look for responsiveness from you. That's the trade off, I expect.
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