I think what's really sad about all of this is that these things are all said so that babies sleep better so that life is more convenient for us. I'm not sure whether I feel more sadness or anger when I hear women talking about how their lives won't change, that baby will fit in with them etc etc. Why bother having a child - just buy a new handbag! My DD has completely turned my world upside down. I have faint memories of the person I used to be and the life I used to lead. I had my last ever brunch with a girlfriend with my DD last week because she is just too active now to happily sit in the pram and listen to us gossip for a few hours. And you know what. I love it. Its a privilege to have a child, not a right, and my job is to make her feel like the most safe, secure and loved creature on this planet. If she takes longer to settle at night because we're having beautiful cuddles and staring at each other with loving expressions and trust, then I think I am the luckiest woman in the world.