Can I bag out other sites??

[~Jo~]

God Ive never heard of such a thing. I could never never use that with tiny bubbas...seems so darn cruel.

Jo

[widdly]

I think no eye contact is a load of bull! I don't think there was a single second that i did not look inot my sons eyes when he was tiny, feeding at my breast and dozing off to sleep in my arms, i even did damage to my nec from constantly looking down at him all the time LOL! Even now we stare into each others eyes before we drift off.

I agree with other posters who have mentioned that advice like this is used to make a baby fit into our lives without upsetting our wants too much.

Ren, i agree that we may be raising an unconnected generation, but, then again, my mothers generation all seemed to go by routines and 4 hourly feeds and all those silly rules, so are we a disconnected society?? Probably.

[boomba]

This makes me so angry! I wont judge parents as being sleep deprived can make you crazy and you will try anything, but we should have more information on hand for women so they dont feel pressured into sleep training and cruel techniques! We must be reassured that following our instincts is the right way, not that of some book!
so many sites play on the sleep training so parents can get their lives back! Im sorry you have a child and they need you more than you need time as an adult! They will only be little and vulnerable for such a short time! We must cherish and love our babies not look away and ignore them!

Long live loving natural parenting!!!!! I dont mean to offend anyone its just how i feel!

[meow]

I wont judge parents as being sleep deprived can make you crazy and you will try anything, but we should have more information on hand for women so they dont feel pressured into sleep training and cruel techniques!

This is exactly why it upsets me. Goodness knows we all need straight forward help when we're sleep deprived and many parents will try these techniques out of concern for their baby not sleeping- not simply a wish for more sleep themselves IYKWIM. It just bothers me that these strategies are constantly promoted when there is no proven basis for them.

[Trillian]

I don't think its that big an issue in regards to sites like that gaining and retaining members, because if you joined and didnt like what you saw or that it just didn't resonate with how you feel about parenting, you would just leave and find somewhere that you did like (like BellyBelly for example )

But in terms of totally confusing the heck out of new parents, who may not have had any experience with newborns/babies, then yes, it is disconcerting that this type of information is out there and is presented as THE ONLY way to parent your child. And when that info is trotted out my a well-known brand of infant products, you're are going to end up quite conflicted with what your head and your heart are telling you.

As for my experience with the eye contact thing, I have found that if I was having a rough night with any of them, then if I just sat and held them and closed my eyes, that seemed to work, but I think mainly because it had a calming effect - they could see that I was calm and if I opened my eyes, more often than not their eyes would be closed too - not necessarily asleep, but quiet and relaxed.

[visitor1]

Looks as if im the only one that thinks the advice that is given on other sites IS helpful.

I guess at the end of the day we do what is right for us personally. We all parent differently to each other.

If i hadnt done as advised who knows what my girls would be like now...so i thank sites and advice given by CHN and hospital staff highly.

Also just to add.....the sites are there for advice...its up to people to choose whether they take it or not....so i think putting them down isnt the best thing to do. All have different opinions.

[Trillian]

Kimbaz, that's just it - you can take it or leave it if you read something that you don't necessarily agree with, but it's just that there are so many like minded people here on this site who subscribe to a different way of parenting to what is on this particular site, thats all - there is no right of wrong way to do it. No one was making any reference to what anyone else does, or chooses to take from these sites, and if you do find something that is beneficial to you, then you would be silly not to use it.