Yep, I judge people, but I don't let them see my negative thoughts, and so far hasn't affected any relationships with people.. I think anyone who says they don't aren't being totally honest with themselves. It is how you deal with your judgment that matters..
We are all different, and what is the norm for me isn't going to be the norm for you or the next person I see. I normally comment about others parenting actions that I don't like to DH (but if I felt someone was doing something to put a child in great danger, I would have to work out a subtle way of bringing it up ).
I have family members and friends that do things that we don't do with our DD, but they are in no danger, so not really my place to say anything.
Yes and I think we all do. We have to make choices all the time as parents and we make those choices based on our knowledge so if someone else chooses something different it's hard not to think that they are not doing the right thing.
Generally with my friends, I don't really comment though I think my friends also get the impression that I am very opinionated about the choices I make (such as co-sleeping, no junk food etc etc.) so they can guess what my reaction might be on certain subjects. I have had to bite my tongue on a few occasions but at the end of the day, I know if they have chosen to do something then it's because they want to and they don't really want me quoting research, what I've read on BB etc. etc. because they're not really open to it.
If, on the other hand, they were to ASK my advice I'd tell it how I see it. But generally they don't ask for advice and that's cool. A friend of mine is doing CC at the moment and it was obvious that she had made her mind up and didn't really need me telling her why I didn't think it was a good idea. At the end of the day, it's their baby and I value their friendship more than I value being/feeling/proving myself right about something. We've known each other for years and they're all what I consider to be good people and unfortunately, in life, we're never going to agree with everyone about everything all the time so I let it go. Though DP and I do talk about it and that is enough of an outlet for me!
I would, however, defend my choices to the hilt (nicely) if one of my friends made a judgement. I'm sure they think it's ridiculous that DD is still sleeping in our room at 18 months old and am perfectly prepared to explain why I think that's been good for her and good for us, if criticised for that decision.
But if it came to the scenario you've described with a sexual offender living in your friend's house, I think that's gone way, way beyond making a judgement - it's about the kids' safety. Apart from figuring out what to do for the best, I honestly don't think that I could respect a friend who was that far removed from common sense that they would endanger their own child.
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