Lol Cai, i'm sure there's a book about why saying "no" should be avoided/saved, but i haven't read it and it doesn't make logical sense to my life so i don't do it. Like, i can SEE hitting someone, whatever age they are, is very disrespectful, so i'd never do that, but i hear "no" most days and have to tell myself it sometimes too, so, i guess, for me, i don't consider it harmful. I suppose i'm gentle because i don't smack or yell (though i have yelled when i was so far at the end of the tether i was strangling on it..) but i'm bloody strict too!
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ETA - geez, you girls is fast!The above was for Cai's first post. DD says "no" to me Mayaness, and i'd never thought of her being disempowered by it! That's an interesting perspective! When i hear "No" from her i know it's time to slow down and discuss why something has to happen as i usually find it's when i'm in a rush and she's feeling overwhelmed by the speed things are happening. I can definitely see that if i said No and then steamrollered her when SHE said no, that really would disempower. I think part of my stance is because i suffered quite a lot when i was a kid because of my inability to articulate a decisive "No".
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