Gentle Parenting Toddlers

[Beach Mama]

I love how much I learn from all of you!! Reading through this thread and lots of others like it really makes me think about how I will deal with Izzy as she grows up and obviously now too. Thanks

[Smoke Jaguar]

It's all relative! No offence taken anywhere here - when it comes down to it, you do what you gotta do for your own situation.
From my own perspective, the disempowerment angle comes in when the 'no' comes from the parent a lot. I would hope that I have other methods of dissuasion {ETA: geez, what typos don't I notice when the kid's around??} than reverting to the autocracy used on me and other parenting I see.
The annoyance angle would come in when DS learns to say it - and if he hears me say it enough, he'll say it back to me and that would drive me nuts! So, they were two separate issues, not my thinking that one is related to the other, if that makes sense!