You know, I think sometimes all parents really need is to feel they have permssion to follow their hearts. There's so much advice out there to stomp all over our instincts and damage that bond between mother and baby - there's no reason to feel bad offering an alternative. You know: you dont' have to let them cry. It's ok to feed them to sleep, or rock them or take them to bed with you or whatever if that's what they like.