How do you deal with other ppls parenting?

[Rahjah]

Actually...I don't mind that idea except that it would make me seem "weaker" rather than informed and making a choice about how I parent. I think that's the bit they don't get. I don't 'pander' to my child...I go to him because it is instinctual and not out of some pop routine parenting book. I also go to him because I know that research tells us (as if we needed it to know) that babies need responsive parents for their healthy mental development.

Oh gosh. I could rant about this all day I'm so opinionated about my parenting

[Becci]

Lol aren't we all Rahjah!!!

[Zee]

Like it or lump it. No-one runs a muck in our house. In our house we do not point a gun (no matter how it's formed) at other peoples faces. This may offend some visitors but it is our house and we also have a parenting style that needs to be respected. I'm probably sounding quite tough here but I do say things tacktfully.

Ditto!!!

Bath- I would have said something, I dont mind kids being kids but there are times when they need to be pulled up cause they are just going to over the top or disrespecting me/the items in my house.

Deff no guns in this house either... I would hate for DD to pick that up.

[Snacks]

OMG, Rah, I would have been livid if someone said to me 'you're just a first-time parent'! Good heavens, they must be insecure. I would have found that dinner incredibly difficult too, and I don't blame you for being reluctant to have that experience again in a hurry - I would be the same.
There was a time we went over to DH's best mate's place, I think Natty was about 1 month old, and they had a 3 month-old. The mate’s wife was testifying about the benefits of CCing. Their 3mo now settled herself every night by sucking her thumb and didn’t cry… “And it only took 6 nights!” To me, that sounded so awful.
But you are right, it is also none of our business, sadly. My mum told me that we didn’t spend a great deal of time with our cousins when we were little, as she and my aunt had very different parenting styles. But once we got a bit older, they restored their relationship and all is well now. Perhaps that’s how it works with friends too. If you were to spend less time with them when your children are all so little, then later on pick up again once you have more in common. (That seems naive, even as I write it, but you never know.)
Hugs to you, babe, and to your gorgeous little man.

[Rahjah]

Hello lovely Amy - we were just talking of you today I don't think that's naive at all, infact, I think it's a nice reognition that parenting young children can be divisive, given the passion with which some of us choose to parent.

Another friend of mine recently talked to me about CCing with their daughter who is teething and was annoying them...and said she was hoarse in the morning. "Poor thing" she said. I think that's actually quite abusive. Their poor little girl is already in pain with teeth, bl...oops probably not allowed to swear on here hey
Yup I think it just means I won't be leaving my kids with them anytime soon - but we get it from all angles. My FIL told me just last night to leave my DS to cry. I just can't understand why people advocate this?

**sighs and takes a deep breath**

Hope little Natty is great, Amy.

[Snacks]

I hope you were saying nice things
Bummer about your FIL. At least your sister shares a similar parenting style - that would be some good support for you.