LZ- Your comments about your childhood are sad. Sounds pretty tough.

Again what you say is similar to others, it's all about how the timeout is implemented and the associated emotions and actions from both the parent and the child.

I don't feel like i'm with drawing love, and DD1 doesn't get hysterical so i'm pretty sure she doesn't feel that way either.But i can see how if used in a a certain manner it could be like that. Sometimes it's tough to set boundaries, and as a child i remember feeling that is was unfair or that my parents didn't love me, (emotional over reaction of a teenager. ) when in fact they were setting boundaries because they loved me. So i guess plenty of love and reassurance helps to ensure that children understand boundries aren't about withdrawing love.