I know some people don't like the idea of time out. Even though its punishment I have always thought of it as a gentle form of punishment. I was spiraling out of control with frustration and anger at my two little girls, I was yelling too much and not being very tolerant at all. I even found myself smacking occasionally I was threatening to take things away all the time, and felt things were just too negative. I got hold if the book 123 magic and it has really changed things at our house. The girls respond so well, ok miss almost 2 needs a bit more time to fully understand but I give her allowances! It involves giving 3 warnings and then time out. One of the keys is not lecturing your kids and nagging them about poor behavior. I still explain what they've done wrong but i don't lecture itms They learn to take responsibility for their actions and realise the consequences of bad behavior. I find our house is now calmer and happier all around. No yelling, (well only occasionally! ) certainly no smacking and we're all much happier.

So am I still following desire to be a gentle parent or am I using a tool that may not be so good for my kids?! Tell me what you think of time out.

All opinions and advice welcome.