You have all the control already. And above all, you have power to say no. Nothing is beyond your control and you need to consent to anything being done. Of course, it would be silly to think that there is no chance of intervention, I think all of us would accept it if it meant the life of our own baby. This is why it is so important to have carers you trust and support who share your same philosophies. They both need to listen to your fears and support you in having the birth you want - something you do have to work bloody hard for. You need to educate yourself as best possible and feel confident with the choices you make. Have you read 'New Active Birth' or 'The Thinking Woman's Guide to A Better Birth?' Both are great. Don't bother with, 'What to Expect When You Are Expecting.'