Ryn I agree with Kelly in having a doula, I didnt have one, but my mum is a midwife, and was my support person, and DH too, but I made sure they both knew, and agreed with what I wanted ( no intervention unless desperate) IF I didnt have my mum I would have paid for a doula, it seems a lot of money, but this is your childs life long memories, and yours!!!!!! This is soooo important . YOU NEED TO HAVE THE BIRTH YOU DESIRE you will regret it otherwise. I have been on a website where the ladies cry on their childs birthday, due to the trauma they experienced at the hands of the health professionals, dont let this happen to you
You are travelling the right path by looking into it now, and I eagerly follow your journey, and wish you the best in finding the birth you need.