Homebirth General Discussion #1

[Traveller]

Bimboo I am so terribly sorry for your loss. I don't really know what to say. I can imagine the comments you may get about at least you have one baby, but of course you want both your babies. How conflicted you must be trying to celebrate the joy or your living child whilst grieving the loss of your angel. I am thinking of you and both your girls.

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[LionsandBears]

Bimboo - I am so sorry for your loss I can only imagine how devastated you and DH are.

I can see why people prefer to focus on the positives, but how is the death of one child any less just because you have another living one? If they weren't twins, maybe they'd understand more. I don't know, I can only think it must make everything so much harder.

Thinking of you.

[Schmickers]

Bimboo - my condolences on the death of your beautiful twin girl.

Try not to hold too much animosity towards the doctors, everyone - it isn't that they are refusing to sign the death certificate, it is that they are required to certify the cause of death, and if they don't know that cause, then they can't sign the certificate.

I hope that in time you can find a way to mourn Elliana and celebrate Ariyen's life.

[Smoke Jaguar]

I hope it's the way you see it, Schmickers, and not a way to punish a planned homebirth.
Still got wriggly girl on me, can't type properly.
The loss of your babe is just so profound. I have tried to fathom this before and it breaks me. You are made of strong stuff and that can seem to let others off the hook, instead of making the effort to acknowledge your loss. Others just wouldn't know what to say and would rather talk about car tyres.
You did a beautiful job with bringing them into the world and Ariyen will always feel Elliana

[Roryrory]

Bimboo I am very sorry that this happened to you and your family.

I feel really bad coming in here now to report this, bringing happy news after such a loss, but I am edging my way towards a homebirth via the Sunshine Hospital's scheme. If all goes well I will have a HB in October. I am surprised at how quickly I am considered to be accepted "in" the scheme (subject to a OB check, of course, at about 20 weeks ). The MW I spoke to today said I am considered very low risk for a HB so while nothing is certain I am pretty optimistic.

[Tegam]

will light a candle for your angel girl Bimboo! Wil have you in my thoughts and heart friday, be brave but that doesnt mean that i expect you not to feel, i know that a part of you will go with your daughter on friday!
All my love, Milly!

[Smoke Jaguar]

If you hear a crack, it's my heart breaking for your little family, along with the others - thinking of you still