Homebirth General Discussion #10

[Tanya]

Congrats on your little girl, C I have suffered severe sex (not using the word gender in relation to this anymore) dissapoinment, and it isn't nice, and it is made so much worse by idiots who say insensitive crap like your sonographer did.

I am sure I had more to say but have placenta dementia! Will be back if/when I remember.

[meow]

I have felt gender disappointment too. Can I just say, it's not about not valuing boys and being disappointed in their gender, but rather that I've felt disappointed at not experiencing girls. It's more about gender yearning, than disappointment.

I always knew I would have two boys. I knew both boys were boys while I was pregnant and when I picture my 3rd possible child, I know he's a boy too. So I'm kind of resolved now I love them to bits, it's not about them. It's about something else I'll never have. I'm so glad for you Cassius that you don't feel those yearnings and sense of loss because it's hard sometimes.

That said, I like siblings all of one sex too. There's something very special about it. There's always a win whichever way the gender dice rolls

[Cricket]

When I had only girls, I was totally fine with that. When we were told that DS was a boy, that was pretty exciting, but we would have been perfectly happy with a girl too. I sort of hoped that DD5 was a boy, just for DS's sake. I thought it would be nice for him to have a brother close to him. But, we were not disappointed to learn that DD was a girl. Surprised, maybe. I really thought I was having another boy up until that point! Mostly though, I don't want people to be "disappointed for us" if you know what I mean. I want them to say "Another girl - what a blessing! Isn't she lovely." Not "Another girl... well... you sure have a lot of girls... too bad it wasn't a boy...."

[Tegam]

Definately felt that most people were sorry for us that dd3 was a girl. Like you cricket I wanted a boy for ds but I wanted a girl for me. If she was/is my last then I always imagined I'd have a girl. It was/is perfect for us. Ds knows no better.....yet lol


Mean while no matter what sex my children are they are not letting me sleep at the moment is there a third sex that sleeps maybe, I want one of those

But a 'friend' on Facebook mentioned how hard it was teaching her baby to 'self settle'. Things could never be that bad!!!!

[HotI]

Mean while no matter what sex my children are they are not letting me sleep at the moment is there a third sex that sleeps maybe, I want one of those

ooh, let me know if you find out about them!