I have my first appointment tonight with my IM! Very excited to be seeing her again and for DP to meet her.
I feel like I should have a list of questions for her - but I can't seem to really think of much.
What sorts of things should I be asking her? I'm so new to all of this that I'm really not too sure - plus I have pregnancy brain so that makes it all so much worse!
I still forget the one question I have every time I see my MW!
I can't remember what I asked my midwife. I got more into the personal side of things just to see if we'd meld, IYKWIM. I wanted to know my MW was not just going to support my decisions because that's her job, but actually have the same beliefs etc. Moved into protocols in the later appointments. Sadly she left (I'm on a community midwifery program) but my new MW is also a good fit.
Aimz: yay for the first appt!! so exciting! questions and discussions will come! you guys will chat and bit by bit it all comes out. she will have some basic questions for you no doubt (pregnancy history, allergies, date of LMP etc etc) and that will help facilitate discussion. she might ask what you would like for the homebirth (ie waterbirth etc). so exciting!!!
I found the first appt involved a lot of listening on my part, to see how I felt about what she said.
Some of my qns now seem irrelevant. There is plenty of time to get into the nitty gritty. So just think of what is most important to you. I just checked she agreed with my reasons for HBACing and the things I didn't agree with at the hospital that I was trying to avoid.
Mostly it was about seeing if we gelled and if I felt I could trust her.
Y'know what? I thought I'd want a mother hen type who would appear calm, wise, all knowing and have so much experience that she had all the answers. My m/w was more like a girlfriend and I'm so glad. I learned to lean more on myself and trust my knowledge, with her there as a safety net and a sounding board. (she probably does have all the answers, but I didn't need that in labour anyway!)
The second m/w was at the first appt too so I got to see how they related to each other as well as us.
You are making me want to jump right back in with all these recollections!
Thanks Cassius, I am getting the last things done... So difficult with a 2yo (in two days) walking a step behind me destroying ll in his path! I cleaned my room yrsterday and while I did the he spun through the lounge and kitchen like a tornado! *sigh*
Had a lovely intimate Blessingway over the week end, was nice and helped me focus on my birth, which is something I haven't really done... So I guess I am ready
SO i got accepted into our local hosp home birth program and will be meeting my midwives within the next few weeks. Im still slightly unsure whether I will attempt homebirth or not.
Can I ask a few questions?
How do they prepare the environment for it? My last labour was only 35min so we are hugely worried that no one will even make it in time and want to know if they leave like a sterile kit etc at your home?
I dont have a huge house either.. and the main living area is very open (no curtains LOL) so the brith area maybe our bedroom so do I need water proof stuff etc?
I have put a mattress protector on my bed... But you really don't need anything if you will be expecting someone to turn up with everything. Cord can stay intact, everyone has towels, you have your breasts and I assume you will have baby blankets and nappies... *shrugs*
Things that I have in my pack are;
Mirror
Towels
Scissors
Cord ties
Homeopathic herbs to help with after birth pains and to help combat any excess bleeding.
Herbs for soothing my perineum
List of emergency numbers
Ummmm... Think that's it without going to look.
So we now have a vomiting almost 5 yo in the house *sigh*
But who is giving birth? Does he give a reason why? Men quite often have issues initially and I think it stems from the stigma associated with birth in the media.
I am sure there are threads on here somewhere about the exact thing. My partner was very reluctant, but now wouldn't have it any other way.
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